It’s amazing how much growing up makes us shape up and become less obsessive about different issues.. Or more like take a more accepting stance on matters like our body weight.. I shall use “me” as an example.. Which of course I always do…
I have always being quite a slender girl.. I never really had a problem with that. I was born that way.. Still I had a big tendency to over obsess about my weight .. It was either of these two extremes:
A. Battling to be slightly bigger
B. Battling to be slightly slimmer..
There was no perfect weight.. There was always some goal I was trying to reach…., does anyone recognise this?
In retrospect , I also realise most of the obsessiveness stemmed from people’s comments on my weight.. Once they say.. “Ah.. You’ve put on weight it’s nice.. Remain like this”.. I get slightly paranoid and cut down on my carbs.. sigh..pathetic.. Or they go.. “You’ve gone so skinny.. Why’??.. I go on a binging fest.. And on and on this unhealthy circle kept on .. Never at peace.. Always at an in between.. Until I found true peace and true acceptance.
I would say true peace and acceptance came from maturity and growing up.. I would also say however that it came from divine measures.. The Lord teaching you means to appreciate who you are and accepting how he has made you.. and loving every single inch..
Running a clothing store and with all my experience styling women, I have come in contact with so many beautiful women.. in all shapes and sizes.. It’s really an awesome experience..
Strangely, the most beautiful ones have the most hang-ups..
- I hate my arms
- I have a pouch (Kangaroo pouch)
- I have spotty legs
- My shoulders are too broad
- My hips are too big..
..and on and on it goes.. You will be shocked at how deeply crippling these hang-ups are.. It is sad to see and I wish it could be easily rectified..
I try my best.. to make them see the beauty in their existence.. and show them that they are actually quite perfect..irrespective of what they think or what the fashion magazines may project..
It is our duty as women/girls in the society to rewrite the norms of beauty and what is seen as perfect.. We are all perfect.. We were all borne different..Let us project this outwardly.. Let us embrace ourselves.. different sizes ,shapes, colours and all..
Hit a sister up on the street and tell her she’s beautiful!! Say a kind word.. Boost someones confidence.. Highlight your positives.. Accept what you can’t change and totally love it.. Tag it your “most beautiful part”..
Stay Happy.. Stay Blessed and spread love around..
“Together we can build an empowered nation filled with healthy emancipated minds”
7 thoughts on “Body Dysmorphia..”
So true…….everyone has some hangup or chip on their shoulder. Thank God for his grace to rid ourselves of them.
Exactly!!! I hope more and more people realise this..
Very true. Well done Ezinne. Lovely post
The truth of life is that you can never love others if you don’t love yourself first. That is why Jesus told us to love others as we love ourselves.
Very true… We have to love us first… Thanks
Thanks for this piece, i have been struggling with loving my body for a long time now. I will learn to love myself
Hello.. I am very glad it spoke to you.. Please love yourself..you are beyond beautiful…Perfect.